What I Wish All Women Wanting to Book a Yoni Massage Knew
As a trained tantra massage professional with five years of full-time experience, I have insights to share about intimate bodywork.
Let's ruffle some feathers: Yoni massage is often seen as an exciting experience to check off a list. Most people try it as a one-off session, but this approach is flawed, regardless of the session length.
Our psycho-erotic histories are tender and complex. Working on intimate issues with a practitioner requires tremendous courage and trust. Groundwork is essential before intimate internal bodywork, which is why I don’t recommend single sessions. The only exceptions I've made were for close sisters who are tantra teachers themselves.
Other types of tantra massage for women include intimate touch without internal work. When I do internal work with women, it's always preceded by other types of tantric bodywork, massage, coaching, and support. More preparation leads to maximum benefit from yoni massage. You can learn more about my signature tantra offering for women here.
Once you’re familiar with tantra tools, comfortable sharing experiences, and setting boundaries, a single session might work. You’ll then be prepared for the ceremony, setting an intention, and leaving the outcome to the mystery. This experience can range from revisiting past trauma to a peaceful inner journey and might be pleasurable, though it's never guaranteed.
The essence of yoni massage is experiencing what you need to shed a layer and come closer to inner union. This might mean encountering darker places, resistance, overwhelm, or pain. Sometimes, we don’t even touch intimate zones as you learn to listen to your body and respect its signals.
Overriding your body’s signals for ‘value’ in a session is re-traumatizing. The desire for a specific experience can lead to boundary-crossing, both internally and externally. Deep and complex work like this doesn’t yield to goal-oriented mindsets.
A solid practitioner spots this mindset and emphasizes the necessity of preliminary work and releasing the need for immediate results. Healing isn’t a one-off fix; it requires ongoing work, similar to traditional therapy.
Female arousal is subtle and intricate, reflecting feminine principles that require presence over logic. Moving beyond goal orientation into pure presence is key in tantra and intimate bodywork. A practitioner must read your body's signals and stop you from overriding them to avoid re-traumatization.
The womb, yoni, and cervix hold memories of past penetrations before readiness. Muscles in the vagina remember, and spiritually, the cervix is the portal of creation, storing all experiences. Through yoni massage and tantra massage, we can release past negative experiences and rewire our bodies for a healthier intimate life.
Few practitioners do one-off yoni massage sessions responsibly. Undetected boundary crossing within women (saying yes but meaning no) is extreme. If you're seeking a yoni massage for specific orgasms (g-spot, k-spot, cervical), there's nothing wrong with that. Some practitioners cater to this, but the deeper energetic alignment is more profound and respectful of feminine mysteries.
Practitioners should care about the context in which they offer this work, ensuring it’s part of a greater healing matrix, not a one-off event. They need to check their motivations and ensure they're in alignment with their deeper purpose.
Receivers need a reality check on how much can shift in a few hours with a near stranger. True healing involves personal responsibility and understanding that workshops and professional training don't guarantee sexual healing. The only way to reconnect is to find your true alignment, know your yes and no, and claim it shamelessly.
Courageously booking a Yoni massage is a start. The best way to get true value is to trust your body deeply and know your boundaries before the session. Overriding that quiet voice is re-traumatizing.
True healing arises from honouring your body and its signals. When you're ready for a session without expectations, you're better prepared for the experience. Your womb doesn't care about the cost or value of the session; it wants to be heard, felt, and honoured.
In one of my early yoni massage sessions during advanced sexuality training, the practitioner didn’t even touch my yoni. Just the thought of it caused intense emotional and energetic release. Many sessions highlight how profound one-off sessions can be, but the risks don’t justify them as the main approach in tantric bodywork.
This work is beautiful, deep, and sacred. It has the power to transform lives when done responsibly.
